Making Your New Year's Resolutions A Reality
Sun, 12/29/2013 - 2:05pm | by Helen Hoart
It’s the New Year and it’s time to once again to dust off those resolutions and try one more time to:
· exercise more
· stop smoking
· eat better
· give up caffeine, alcohol or chocolate
· or whatever other bad habit you’ve been trying to scrap for time immemorial
Is there a way to get off the resolution merry ground and really accomplish our goals? What does it take to make New Year’s resolutions become a reality? Maybe instead of making resolutions, you should consider making affirmations. Affirmations are conscious positive thoughts. When you make an affirmation you are declaring that something is true. To put it simply, affirmations are statements where you assert that what you want to be true is true.
Let’s look at the difference between a resolution and an affirmation.
I am going to stop smoking I am smoke free
I am going to work on losing weight I am losing weight
I am going to find a new job I am looking for a job
An affirmation puts you in the present and makes you an active participant of the change you want. It’s not about some future action. It’s about now, and you are making it true.
Regardless of whether you try affirmations or stick with you time-honored New Year’s resolutions, the first step, according to psychologists, is to believe you can achieve these goals. That’s right. You must believe in your own ability to achieve them. If you’re making resolutions but going into them with the mindset that “I know this isn’t going to work. It never does.” Guess what? You’ll be proved right.
Instead, when you make a resolution this year, resolve to accomplish it.
Have a plan and be specific
Let’s say your New Year’s resolution is to exercise more. That’s very general. Instead lay out how you will accomplish your goal to exercise more (and be reasonable). I will go to the gym three times a week and uses the treadmill for 45 minutes each time. Or I will attend 3 exercise classes a week. Remember, many of our resolutions depend on the activity becoming part of our life, becoming a habit.
Find someone else who shares your goal. Trying to change a bad habit into a good habit is a struggle. Finding a buddy helps. You can support each other along the way.
No matter what you choose to do—make a New Year’s resolution or not, do pledge to make this year one in which you come closer to the being the kind of person you want to be.
Happy New Year!