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Who Says your Life has to be a Certain Way?

Fri, 11/09/2012 - 4:26pm | by monicadear

There are many who tell you that your life has to fulfill a certain path, namely:

1) Graduate from high school.

2) Earn a college degree.

3) Get a good job.

4) Get married.

5) Get a house.

6) Have your child.

7) Move to a larger house.

8) Increase your job responsibilities & pay.

Repeat steps 5-8 for a few cycles.

9) Then, retire to start really living your life.


The saddest things I've heard from some of my associates are things like "I can start pursuing my dreams in 6 years when my spouse retires from their job" or "only 3 more years until my pension kicks in" or "we were planning to finally go on our big trip but right before we left, he had that stroke."

How about now?

How about we live our lives the way we choose, without putting our focus on some far-off goal that may never come?

How about we think upon every day that we're alive and appreciate it with gratitude and blessedness?

I believe deferred gratification is a fine thing, but never at the expense of your life spark, your joie de vivre, your ability to use each day to advance your skills and make a difference in the world.


Always let your light shine, and think up a new pathway of living.

It could be something like:

1) Be healthy - exercise every day & eat right.

2) Spend time with family and friends.

3) Create a job or work situation that suits my personality, skills, and values.

4) Work 8 months of the year, and volunteer/travel/do some other task 4 months of the year.

5) Grow and support local businesses that empower my community and fill our respective needs.

6) Fix my sights on ending a long-term problem.

7) Use my talents to make the world a better place.


I believe you can create a pathway that suits your own needs, and you can still live life to the fullest. When you choose creativity, thinking "outside the box," and when you brainstorm new ways of being, you light the way for other people to choose those options, too.


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