9 Steps to Bring you to your Future Self: #4 Change your Perceptions to Change your Outcomes
When you consider the future, what do you see? Do you see a specific goal which you are well on your way to achieving? Do you see an uncertain future with no relation to your current day-to-day existence? Do you just see the calendar with days passing, with an unquantified future ahead? Do you count backward: "623 days from now, I receive my master's degree... in 172 days or earlier, I take ownership of my first house... in 23 days, I finish my first novel."
Or do you count forward? "By next August, I will have met my dream relationship, by 2012 I will have sold my first screenplay, by next year this time, I will be debt-free."
When we look at end dates and start seeing the relationship between that end date and our present time, we feel a stronger connection to our future self and we sense, in a more visceral way, how our current actions, thoughts and beliefs create that future.
First things first: like my grandfather says, if we don't know where we're coming from, we don't know where we're going. I recommend you take stock of where you are today.
You have been working for ____ years.
You've been in school for ____ years.
You've been a parent or guardian for ____ years.
You've been living with your struggle for ____ months.
You've been sober for ____ days.
What have you achieved up until this point? Be realistic and be positive about all that you carry within you to this point. If you find your negative voice pointing out how so-and-so has a better job, or so-and-so seems to have closer relationships, tune those out!
Focus on something that makes you happy, something that makes you proud, something that makes you who you are. You are a grand total of achievements: believe me, even getting up this morning is a fantastic achievement! When you feel more confident about your "wins," when you actually do the tallying of the different goals that you have already achieved, and when you have a better sense of how your current self is the sum total of your past experiences, ideas, and actions, you will feel yourself in a more empowered space to embrace all that your future self offers you.
We are whole, we are complete, we have been able to accomplish so much, we will accomplish so much more. We occupy our space. We stand our ground, we share our truth, and we move our way through the world with confidence, grace, and enthusiasm!
Now, looking to the future, we intend to do the following: (insert your goal here) (insert the timeline to achieve that goal here).
So now, when we start going through our days, weeks, and months, we see the path directly in front of us and we see the end point for that path: we see our destination, where we know we will arrive... With that path clearly delineated in front of our feet, with each day we notch up, we feel even more pride and success while we are in the process of achieving of our goals.
I encourage you to look forward. Our hopes, dreams, and aspirations await our belief. What a wonderful gift we receive each day! I know you appreciate every single moment of every single day: it's another day closer to our next big goal.
When we change our perception from just "marking time" to actually counting down towards our desired outcomes, we make a stronger connection. Forge that connection. Make your vision into a reality, one day at a time. Share with others and encourage others along their paths. Here is a list of other members' declared goals for the next year: Declarations. Remember to enjoy the moment!
Step 1: Intention Creates Reality
Step 2: Match your Exterior World to your Interior World
Step 3: Positive Feedback Works
Step 4: Change your Perceptions to Change your Outcomes
Step 5: Heal Your Heart
Step 6: Express Gratitude
Step 7: Connect with Others
Step 8: Lifelong Learning Every Day
Step 9: Raise Your Consciousness