Not Everyone Gets an A+
I was an A+ student throughout K-12, so it was a real shocker when I got to my first semester at university and ended up on academic probation with a D average. Granted, it's an Ivy League school, I was taking 21 credits, spending hours in studio, and participating in graduate-level classes, but the point was I thought I could do a lot better, but I didn't. In my second semester I slowed down, organized my schedule, learned how to focus, and enrolled in courses that just slightly pushed my ability, instead of overwhelming my ability.
My point is that not everyone is an A+ student. The world is full of solid B/C average skill level individuals. Some of us are hanging in there at D level. Some of us are failing tremendously.
Most people will not always exceed expectations in every aspect of their lives. Sometimes all we do is meet expectations. Sometimes we can't even do that, and we fail expectations. Deal with this reality.
Once you realize that, in some cases, you'll fail (and in other cases, you'll fail miserably), you are freed up from the burden of having to feel bad about failure. (See what our members say about failure -- feel free to unload your own memory ).
Knowing that not everything in your life will be an A+, you can think about those aspects of your life that you really do want to earn the highest recognition. You want to go for the gold star -- you desire the gold medal -- you crave the realization that comes with achieving mastery. That area of your life may be your finances, or your parenting skills, or your relationships. Maybe you want an A+ in your health and wellness. Perhaps you're seeking strong spiritual development. Maybe you want top marks at your job or in your business.
Regardless of which you choose, there is no such thing as getting straight A's in life. Some of the most successful people still wonder if they're making the right decisions --- and with no institution or teacher or professor to give out grades, how do we figure out how we're doing?
Make sure you shoot for the highest level you can in the areas that are most important to you. You'll find that success in one area of life helps you fell better and more encouraged to attain success in other areas of your life. But remember -- if you're out of school, you don't have to get straight A's anymore.
You have to constantly find other ways to define success, in your life and in the lives of the people around you..