The Road to Achieving Success Starts with your First Step
In my experience, any kind of big goal, like Achieving Success, means we all must first clearly state our desired results. This means identifying the Big Goal: what's the overall picture?
What does achievement of this goal look like?
How does it feel?
Clarifying that Big Goal means envisioning it in total detail, writing it down, posting it everywhere, and truly embodying it.
Dream it.
Creating the Big Goal means truly reaching beyond your present circumstance or situation and putting yourself in the situation you desire. What is that goal? (Never mind how you will get there, or what potential obstacles are in the way).
What is your desired goal? Who is there with you? What are you doing? Imagine it in every detail.
For example, I want the A Successful Woman website to identify, reach, and draw in a powerful, engaging, friendly group of like-minded individuals.
Through the website, we learn things together. We support each other through doing business with each other. We help each other realize long-held dreams. We make a positive difference for our world... together.
- I see all of us forming a network of capital, connections, resources, and ideas.
- I see a comfortable space where we all understand each other's motivations and we respect each other's beliefs.
- I see us all working steadfastly to address issues.
- I see committment and the ability to rise to any challenge.
- I see us effecting real, positive change in issues that matter to us.
They're big goals.
When will it happen?
After identifying what the overall goal for your project or endeavor is, the next step is setting a timeline. When will this overall goal be achieved? It could be ten years from now, or twenty, or just a few months from now. Identify a time frame and aim towards that time frame. "I want to achieve my big goal by this date: __________________."
Check your progress.
Next, think about what details would constitute achievement of that goal. This could relate to any kind of goal, such as "success in relationships" or "success as a parent" or "success in school" or "success as a human being."
The details include quantification: "I request that my e-mail newsletter list reach 100,000 e-mail subscribers." Or, the details may include qualitative measurements: "My goal is for my community website to have an active discussion board that sparks real discussion, connections, and friendships between the participants."
What are the measurements that would determine success for your Big Goal?
It might be achieving a specific monthly income, or being able to reach a certain number of people every month, or it might be targeting a specific weight or blood pressure reading. Whatever it is, it needs quantification: what are your metrics?
Track your Progress
Next, continually measuring your progress is the next part of achieving your goal. Perhaps this is daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, or annually, as a kind of progress report. Where are you in time and what benchmarks have you reached? Constant measurement means accountability, which keeps you on track with your goal.
What is today's date?
By when did you want to achieve your goal?
Check in and identify benchmarks, or progress markers that help you feel like you're reaching your goal. These are like the mile markers during a road trip: they give you a sense that you're making progress. Whatever the interim item is, when you reach it, celebrate it! When you reach your marker, you are that much closer to your goal.
Check in again?
As a note, I encourage you to review your Big Goal periodically. In your estimation, does achieving your goal mean you are successful?
At the 3-month, 6-month, 12-month, 3-year, 5-year, 10-year mark:
Does your goal still make sense?
Does it still fit with your vision of where you want to be going?
Is it relevant to what you are doing now?
If it still makes sense, you are doing the right thing... keep going!
If your definition of success no longer resonates with you, consider your Big Goal in more detail and identify your true reasons or your true motivation. You may surprise yourself with something totally different than expected.
Build your team.
It's important for you to find other people who are committed to your success, too. These are friends, lovers, parents, associates, mentors, and family who understand your vision and who support you in achieving that vision. They are positive and they give you support.
(I'm planning for the A Successful Woman website to be a kind of clearinghouse for all of us to meet each other and act as this support team).
You always live, breathe, and work in relation to other people: we achieve our goals only as part of a tribe of others who are walking their path next to us. If you don't know anyone who will help you, reach out! Build your network and meet with people in person or online: wherever they are, they are part of your team. Find your supporters.
So achieving your success means envisioning it, setting a timeline on it, identifying benchmarks along the way, constantly assessing your progress, and enlisting the support of others who share that goal for you.
If you are already on this path, congratulations. It's easy to talk and talk but never take action towards our goals (typical phrases to defeat ourselves: "I'm tired!" or "the timing isn't right" or "I have too many other things on my plate right now")
Try taking action! Even a little action is still action.
If a big indicator is too much, set a small indicator of progress to help you feel like you're moving forward.
Instead of 100,000 subscribers, start with 10.
Then move it to 100...
THEN you start moving the goal to 1000 and 10,000.
Take the first step.
If you're not yet on your path, just take a first step. When you define your goal and you know what success means to you, and you're measuring your progress and revisiting your goal on a regular basis, you'll definitely achieve. However, all of this presupposes that you've taken the first step. If you haven't, go ahead! Just take the first step that brings you there:
Reserve the domain name.
Buy the jeans two sizes smaller.
Sign up for the marathon.
Schedule the tickets.
Open up a new folder.
At a certain point, we must leap into the unknown. Sometimes, moving towards that Big Goal means moving far outside our comfort zone. Anyway, that's the purpose of having a Big Goal!
Just take the first step. Everything else will follow.
Visionboard #10: Trust the Universe
Mon, 02/06/2012 - 2:26am | by monicadearOne of my favorite meditations is the idea that each of us are simply manifestations of the Universe, and so every experience that we go through, no matter how difficult and terrifying, is still a way for us to learn, expand, grow, and increase our self-knowledge.
This visionboard item is one of my ways to remind myself to place my trust that everything is part of a greater plan, or at least, I can put everything into place and know that there is unity and harmony within all the different chaotic strings and threads of experience and activity.
7 Tips to Prevent Bullying
Mon, 02/06/2012 - 1:30am | by monicadearIf you're a mom, mentor, or involved in the classroom, you know the importance of maintaining a decent, respectful, positive, safe, and supportive environment for all students. Bullying can happen to children, teens, and young adults who do not get along well with others, who are "less popular", or who have few to no friends in the school. Also at risk for being bullied are youths with depression or anxiety, and those who have low self esteem. Those especially at risk are LGBT and questioning youth: in one study by Laura Sessions Stepp, "four out of five gay and lesbian students say they don't know one supportive adult at school."
Don't Just Settle - Make it Meaningful, Happy, and Deeply Satisfying
Wed, 01/18/2012 - 2:18pm | by monicadearI am always a proponent of upgrading your lifestyle in as many ways as possible. I believe that for the sake of mental health, sanity, and security, we each deserve to follow our intuition, treat ourselves well, and look after our own best interests. If we focus on continuous improvement and do this naturally every day, with the mindset of being grateful and expressing deep respect for the gift of life, we can incrementally change our living situation.
7 Valentine's Day Gift Ideas for the Woman Business Owner in your Life
Sun, 01/15/2012 - 2:48pm | by monicadear
1) Pay for her website domain and hosting
Most small business owners don't think of this precious detail, and if your special lady is in business, this is one of a myriad of other details. Do her a favor and prepay for the next 2-3 years of domain and hosting. You'll get a chance to reassess her existing website details (username and password) and inventory the current situation.
2) Get her Quickbooks Online
Evaluating your Savings Needs
Thu, 01/12/2012 - 7:17pm | by monicadearWith the low interest rates available and the challenge of many women to manage their family finances, their business finances, and the changing needs of family - from children going to college to elderly parents needing care, we're finding a great need for education and self-awareness about personal finance options.
A great place to get started learning about finances is Investopedia. You can also learn about personal journeys through blogs like I Will Teach You to Be Rich, Millionaire Mommy Next Door, or Get Rich Slowly.
The beginning of the year is a great time to get organized and review (or start) your savings plan.
Four Totally "Out-of-the-Box" Predictions
Tue, 01/03/2012 - 4:44pm | by monicadearI pride myself on being fairly well-educated and tolerant of diversity.
Here are four completely out-of-the-ordinary ideas I've recently been exposed to. I've had a hard time wrapping my head around each of these, but I think that each is a very early indication of different trends in our modern world, and in terms of a business approach, it would be wise to consider ways to integrate these ideas into your existing business model or your marketable job skills: natural remedies, open source mentality, overall collaboration, and green extreme.
Beyond Natural Remedies

Wedding Day Planning: Four Steps to Make it Fabulous
Thu, 12/29/2011 - 8:00pm | by monicadearThe wedding service and vows, your attire, the location of the service and reception, and decorations: if your big day is coming up, start planning for these four items at the very beginning. This will help reduce the stress because, like most brides, you're probably planning a wedding on top of dealing with a full-time job, interacting with family and in-laws, organizing travel arrangements, anticipating special needs for seniors or children, finding ethical rings, deciding on vendors, and fitting everything into your budget.
























