Talking about Dreams
Dreams are really the only thing that motivates us — meaning, it is our unconscious, subconscious belief of how the world works that will impact our daily reality.
If you, in your most wildest dreams, believe that you are capable of doing and achieving your highest potential, then that will “filter down” into your daily action plan and your expectations for success.
If you, in your most despairing dreams, believe that the whole world is against you and fill in whatever belief you have here ___________________, then that mentality will also “filter down” into your daily action plan and your expectations for success.
I’m reading about different outlooks from people who are being profiled by Fortune.com during their job search and I am impacted by two wildly different perspectives:
“If you make some positive changes, you can carry a better you into your new job. It’s all determined by how we choose to react to our circumstances — to get bitter, or to get better!”
“I still feel as if the economy is in a funk and things aren’t going to turn around anytime soon. There just aren’t that many opportunities.”
The difference in outlook here is astounding and it explains to me a lot about how people’s realities are shaped by their inner dream-like understanding of life, the universe around us, and how the world works.
A book by Noah St. John www.successclinic.com talks about the difference between “affirmations” and what he calls “afformations”. An affirmation is basically a belief that you continually repeat to yourself, but he has found through his experience that if you don’t believe something at your core level, no amount of repetition will help you believe it. Instead, he suggests you come up with an “afformation”, which is an open-ended way for your subconscious mind to come up with an answer.
For example, an affirmation is: I am healthy. I will find the perfect relationship for me. I have abundance in my life. I am wealthy. However, if you truly don’t believe in these, then you automatically tell yourself, “that’s not true” and the cycle comes to a stop.
An example of an “afformation” is: Why am I so healthy? Why am I so happy to be in my relationship? Why am I so abundant in my life? Why am I wealthy? Because our subconscious mind is always finding answers to questions and attempting to craft a worldview, when we ask open-ended questions, we allow ourselves the opportunity to come up with answers.
Try it: “I have a perfect job.” —- Nahhh! vs. “What job is perfect for me?"
Which job uses my best talents?
At which kind of work do I excel?” —
Oh, a perfect job would be…. because X, and Y, and Z, and that brings up A, and B, and C, which reminds me of 1, 2, and 3…..
See how much more availability there is in the afformation, open-ended question version? I have been developing my own list of affirmations for about 2 years now. They are coming true for me by challenging me to think even deeper and be more and more creative about finding solutions.