Talking about Dreams
Mon, 09/07/2009 - 11:46am | by monicadear
Dreams are really the only thing that motivates us — meaning, it is our unconscious, subconscious belief of how the world works that will impact our daily reality.
If you, in your most wildest dreams, believe that you are capable of doing and achieving your highest potential, then that will “filter down” into your daily action plan and your expectations for success.
If you, in your most despairing dreams, believe that the whole world is against you and fill in whatever belief you have here ___________________, then that mentality will also “filter down” into your daily action plan and your expectations for success.
I’m reading about different outlooks from people who are being profiled by Fortune.com during their job search and I am impacted by two wildly different perspectives:
“If you make some positive changes, you can carry a better you into your new job. It’s all determined by how we choose to react to our circumstances — to get bitter, or to get better!”
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“I still feel as if the economy is in a funk and things aren’t going to turn around anytime soon. There just aren’t that many opportunities.”
The difference in outlook here is astounding and it explains to me a lot about how people’s realities are shaped by their inner dream-like understanding of life, the universe around us, and how the world works.
A book by Noah St. John www.successclinic.com talks about the difference between “affirmations” and what he calls “afformations”. An affirmation is basically a belief that you continually repeat to yourself, but he has found through his experience that if you don’t believe something at your core level, no amount of repetition will help you believe it. Instead, he suggests you come up with an “afformation”, which is an open-ended way for your subconscious mind to come up with an answer.
For example, an affirmation is: I am healthy. I will find the perfect relationship for me. I have abundance in my life. I am wealthy. However, if you truly don’t believe in these, then you automatically tell yourself, “that’s not true” and the cycle comes to a stop.
An example of an “afformation” is: Why am I so healthy? Why am I so happy to be in my relationship? Why am I so abundant in my life? Why am I wealthy? Because our subconscious mind is always finding answers to questions and attempting to craft a worldview, when we ask open-ended questions, we allow ourselves the opportunity to come up with answers.
Try it: “I have a perfect job.” —- Nahhh! vs. “What job is perfect for me?"
Which job uses my best talents?
At which kind of work do I excel?” —
Oh, a perfect job would be…. because X, and Y, and Z, and that brings up A, and B, and C, which reminds me of 1, 2, and 3…..
See how much more availability there is in the afformation, open-ended question version? I have been developing my own list of affirmations for about 2 years now. They are coming true for me by challenging me to think even deeper and be more and more creative about finding solutions.
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Send to friendVisionboard #10: Trust the Universe
Mon, 02/06/2012 - 2:26am | by monicadearOne of my favorite meditations is the idea that each of us are simply manifestations of the Universe, and so every experience that we go through, no matter how difficult and terrifying, is still a way for us to learn, expand, grow, and increase our self-knowledge.
This visionboard item is one of my ways to remind myself to place my trust that everything is part of a greater plan, or at least, I can put everything into place and know that there is unity and harmony within all the different chaotic strings and threads of experience and activity.
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7 Tips to Prevent Bullying
Mon, 02/06/2012 - 1:30am | by monicadear
If you're a mom, mentor, or involved in the classroom, you know the importance of maintaining a decent, respectful, positive, safe, and supportive environment for all students. Bullying can happen to children, teens, and young adults who do not get along well with others, who are "less popular", or who have few to no friends in the school. Also at risk for being bullied are youths with depression or anxiety, and those who have low self esteem. Those especially at risk are LGBT and questioning youth: in one study by Laura Sessions Stepp, "four out of five gay and lesbian students say they don't know one supportive adult at school."
Don't Just Settle - Make it Meaningful, Happy, and Deeply Satisfying
Wed, 01/18/2012 - 2:18pm | by monicadear
I am always a proponent of upgrading your lifestyle in as many ways as possible. I believe that for the sake of mental health, sanity, and security, we each deserve to follow our intuition, treat ourselves well, and look after our own best interests. If we focus on continuous improvement and do this naturally every day, with the mindset of being grateful and expressing deep respect for the gift of life, we can incrementally change our living situation.
7 Valentine's Day Gift Ideas for the Woman Business Owner in your Life
Sun, 01/15/2012 - 2:48pm | by monicadear
1) Pay for her website domain and hosting
Most small business owners don't think of this precious detail, and if your special lady is in business, this is one of a myriad of other details. Do her a favor and prepay for the next 2-3 years of domain and hosting. You'll get a chance to reassess her existing website details (username and password) and inventory the current situation.
2) Get her Quickbooks Online
Evaluating your Savings Needs
Thu, 01/12/2012 - 7:17pm | by monicadear
With the low interest rates available and the challenge of many women to manage their family finances, their business finances, and the changing needs of family - from children going to college to elderly parents needing care, we're finding a great need for education and self-awareness about personal finance options.
A great place to get started learning about finances is Investopedia. You can also learn about personal journeys through blogs like I Will Teach You to Be Rich, Millionaire Mommy Next Door, or Get Rich Slowly.
The beginning of the year is a great time to get organized and review (or start) your savings plan.
Four Totally "Out-of-the-Box" Predictions
Tue, 01/03/2012 - 4:44pm | by monicadear
I pride myself on being fairly well-educated and tolerant of diversity.
Here are four completely out-of-the-ordinary ideas I've recently been exposed to. I've had a hard time wrapping my head around each of these, but I think that each is a very early indication of different trends in our modern world, and in terms of a business approach, it would be wise to consider ways to integrate these ideas into your existing business model or your marketable job skills: natural remedies, open source mentality, overall collaboration, and green extreme.
Beyond Natural Remedies
Wedding Day Planning: Four Steps to Make it Fabulous
Thu, 12/29/2011 - 8:00pm | by monicadear
The wedding service and vows, your attire, the location of the service and reception, and decorations: if your big day is coming up, start planning for these four items at the very beginning. This will help reduce the stress because, like most brides, you're probably planning a wedding on top of dealing with a full-time job, interacting with family and in-laws, organizing travel arrangements, anticipating special needs for seniors or children, finding ethical rings, deciding on vendors, and fitting everything into your budget.
