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What do YOU do when Someone is Rude to you?

Fri, 11/09/2012 - 4:26pm | by monicadear

Rudeness is, unfortunately, a part of life and there will always be people who transact with other people in a framework of rudeness, snideness, hostility, meanness, and anger.

That's just the way it is and it has nothing to do with you as a person or as a gifted, unique individual.

If someone is rude to you:

1) Take a deep breath and respond calmly, yet firmly.

There is no need for you to become rude in response. Maintain composure and understand that any kind of behavior meant to "get at you" is meant to unbalance you. Breathe a few times, and resist the urge to lash out.

2) Call attention to the situation, error, or issue by speaking directly with the person.

Many people get more angry or out-of-control if they feel like they are being attacked. If you need to instruct someone on how their behavior is rude or inappropriate, do so in a person-to-person tone of voice directly to them (instead of being loud). If you're in a public place, speak to them while you remain in earshot and in view of other people. If you're on the phone, maintain an even speaking voice.

3) Take the high ground.

It helps you and your self-esteem to keep it clean, professional, and crisp. Feel free to remain silent and take action as an example, if you don't feel like you can speak to the person who's been rude.

4) Understand the situation and run if it looks ugly.

Some people are trying to provoke a confrontation and they may act with aggression, meanness, or outright hostility. You don't need to be a target and you don't need to put yourself in harm's way. If someone is rude to you, consider that they may be impaired, mentally challenged, or somehow not totally "there." Get away from the situation if you feel threatened at all.

5) Detox.

We all do well to get rid of toxic people in our lives. Ditch the people who are consistently rude or mean to you, and make an effort to surround yourself with proactive, compassionate, understanding friends, relatives, and associates. You'll find more and more incidences of good happening -- much more to outweigh the bad.

Has rudeness become a big habit in your life? Are you constantly in a situation where people behave rudely to you? Maybe now is the time to reassess what's working and what's not working for you. By changing your living situation, your daily routine, the places you shop, or your activities, you'll get out of the way of negative energy and move to a more positive, uplifting place.


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